October 4, 2017
We are all striving for the same goal: Success.
So why would we tear each other down and compete with each other?
A little friendly competition is fine; encouraged, in fact. A little competition makes people work harder.
But we’re talking competing with peers on social media, comparing ourselves to others, etc. Not in a healthy way.
I’ve teamed up with Chelsea from The Soul Playlist to bring you the 8 reasons why we need to stop competing with each other.
We believe that we should lift each other up and root for each other’s successes, rather than competing and comparing.
Read on to find out why we think competition is highly overrated.
1. Building Relationships
(CA) Building relationships is key for anything in life, not just business.
It’s all about who you know, right?
Competing with your peers only weakens the relationships you have.
No one gets far who is just in it for themselves.
Building good relationships with your peers is very important in taking your career to the next level. And who knows? Those relationships could open a door to new possibilities, including: a collab, a new job, or expanding your perspective.
2. Females in the Workplace
(CA) Whether you have started your own business, or you’re trying to advance your career, being a woman in the workplace is hard enough.
We already have to deal with inequality – and if you are competing with other females in your field or office, it makes your job 10 times harder.
It’s another thing to have to worry about constantly.
Bloggers like The Skinny Confidential and The Balanced Blonde thrive off of building other women and other bloggers up.
They collaborate all the time, bounce ideas off of one another, and link up to create some magical things.
These women see the value in relationships and lifting each other up. They know that if they do this, their businesses with become that much more successful.
And they have a great female support system holding them.
3. The Right Reasons
(KC) Don’t allow yourself to get in the way of your success.
Think about why you started your journey in the first place. Was it to prove something to others? Or was it to help and inspire people?
There is always someone else in your niche, which is good thing, it means there’s a need for it. I know that no matter what anyone else is doing, my intentions are pure and for the right reasons. So comparison only slows me down.
Spend your time finding out what’s wrong in your niche and make it better. Finding a solution will always be a better way to spend your time. If you spend your time trying to one-up someone else, you won’t ever truly be satisfied because it’s for the wrong reasons.
4. Self Acceptance
(KC) Switching how we view ourselves in a positive way reflects how we treat and support others.
When we accept ourselves and what we’re doing, it reflects in our actions and happiness for others instead of comparisons.
If we choose to allow negative thoughts and actions to dictate our life we will be left extremely unfulfilled and you’ll never live for you and your purpose. Don’t get caught up in what other people are doing.
This is something we have to constantly work on because if it’s not comparison to one person, another one will come along and we’ll have to continually give ourselves affirmations into a positive life.
Accept where you are while you work for what you want.
6. Social Media Comparisons
(CA) We love to hate social media.
It can help you grow your business in a big way, but the comparison game is real. It can be so hard not to compare yourself to another blogger or a celeb.
Everyone is so different; with unique perspectives, styles, and creative vision.
You cannot compare another person’s photos to yours. It just creates a vicious cycle. Social media is only the surface level stuff – one of my favorite quotes is this:
“Don’t compare your hustle to their highlight reel.” – Sophia Amoruso
Doesn’t that just make you feel so hopeful?
I’ve been stuck many times in the “I am so overwhelmed because my career/business isn’t growing, and look at this person! They are killing the game.”
Do we see the struggles of them starting their business? No.
Do we see the 5 times they failed, and then they moved on to the next thing? Nope.
Do we see them finding their voice and confidence? No, we don’t see that. Social media is the highlight reel, not real life.
6. Serving Others
(KC) If you’re struggling to find your “why”, ask yourself how you can serve others.
What can you do to bring a solution or happiness into someone’s life? I believe we’re all here to serve each other.
What you put out into the world will always come back to you. So speak kindly to others, including your peers. Be generous, be a listener, a giver, a servant, be loving to everyone and everything. Watch as it comes back to you tenfold.
7. Be Your Own Person
(CA) You can’t be everything to everyone.
There are plenty of fitness bloggers, lifestyle bloggers, etc. but only YOU can bring your unique perspective to each of these niches.
It can be super overwhelming if you want to do everything all of the fitness bloggers in your space are doing.
It’s not possible –
You just can’t do it all, and that’s okay. You have so many great things that you bring to the table – and the next person will do the same.
That’s the amazing part of life – everyone is so different that you can learn a lot from those around you.
8. Patience For Results
(KC) We live in a world of instant satisfaction. Anything we want is at our fingertips.
We’ve gotten used to this way of life but it’s not our fault, it’s how things are now. I can think of many times I’ve compared my progress to others and I immediately dial back and remind myself that everyone starts somewhere. That’s true for a lot in life!
We all want to get ahead but a lot of us don’t want to do the work to get there. It takes too long! You would be utterly shocked at how many people buy followers, likes, comments, and for what? It goes back to serving others, do you want to look like you have a lot of engagement or do you actually want to help real people?
One thing that will always remain is patience for long lasting, real results. If you want to separate yourself from others, be patient, consistent, and always be authentic.
We hope this inspires you! Leave your comments below and don’t forget to check out Chelsea’s blog, The Soul Playlist!
all my love,
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