February 12, 2017
The fact that I’m writing about this makes me want to scream for joy, jump up and down, throw confetti in my own face, and every other celebratory action.
My new favorite thing?
There’s nothing like being incredibly uncomfortable.
I can say that now, but that was not the case a few months ago.
I can’t even begin to tell you how long I’ve been planning this sweet, sweet blog in my mind. I have been dreaming of this platform where I can share some love to people, especially girls, who need it. Where I can write about my breakthroughs, and hopefully help someone with their own.
What was holding me back?
There’s risk and fear of putting something out there to be judged. I am essentially putting my personality and my passions amongst my peers for them to judge. Which is not easy. And for the first time, I’m cool with it.
So why do people care so much about what others think of them? I’m guilty of this, and I could sit here and tell you to stop caring but It’s not as easy as it sounds.
I don’t want fear of rejection and humiliation to control my every move.
How can we overcome crap like this?
I think It’s very hard for people to be happy for one another. It always seems to be a competition. Who has the better life, who has the nicest car, who is in a relationship first, who is more successful first.
And people don’t like to be patient. Patient isn’t in our vocabulary.
We want it now & we want it delivered
Stress, winning, perfection and comparison would be better examples of our nature.
When someone is unhappy with their own life, It’s very likely that they will bring you down along with them. Making you feel less, making you feel like your passions, your ideas, your way of living is stupid. They tear you down. There are some people that you have to remove from your life, simply because you cannot grow with them in it.
And that’s more than ok.
The truth is, there is no order to which life events are meant to happen. If you would have told me at 23 years old I would be marrying the sweetest man on the planet and love of my life, I would have rolled my eyes, laughed in your face and taken another shot of vodka. Because that was my life. I didn’t have goals, I didn’t have a passion, I didn’t have any drive or motivation or confidence. I didn’t believe that I could love or be loved. We like to control everything in our lives, and sometimes, everyone. But it took me a long time to figure out that some things are beyond my control.
People liking you. That’s beyond your control! You cannot make someone like you. Because not everyone will.
More importantly, people don’t care!
People are too consumed in themselves and their own lives to honestly care about yours. People who judge, are bored. People are going to have opinions if you’re doing nothing with your life, too.
Ask yourself these questions,
Am I happy with my life right now?
What have I done to change my situation?
Am I really listening to what God is telling me?
Am I working to make myself better each day?
When you feel like your life isn’t going as planned, welcome to reality. When you feel like you’re giving it your absolute all to find that dream job, to find that dream man or women, to find a purpose, a message to share with the world. Stop trying so hard. If you want things in your life to change, YOU have to change. You have to step out of your comfort zone and take action. Change your circumstances. If you want to change, inspire, create, explore, DO IT. There will never be a perfect time. And no one should stop you. You should always do what you want and not for a second worry about what other people think.
If you don’t like where you are or what you’re doing, and you sit on social media all day and ooo and ahhh over all these people who you may or may not know and think that there life is so much better than yours, or they must have been given their success…
Then I literally want to lightly slap you in the face and tell you to wake up.
Do something about it, change your situation. You are not as stuck as you think you are.
All the successful people you see, they have taken action and stepped out of their comfort zone to get to where they are. My story on that is best saved for a different post.
And I’m not preaching to you, because I’m totally guilty of this. Seeing other bloggers, for example. Thinking, “wow, I wish I had that life, I wish I had her pictures. I wish I had her following, and this and that is better than what I could do.”
No one is better than me, and I’m not better than anyone.
You cannot be happy for others when you’re so distraught with your own life. And if someone isn’t happy for you, or doesn’t support you It’s a direct reflection of them. You’re not defined by the number of likes on a post, you’re not defined by where you live, or what job you’re in.
I stopped living to please others. The only approval I seek, is Gods. And ever since I started listening to Him, my entire life has changed. For the 100 percent better. I’ve never felt more free, and myself. I’ve never been happier for others, or genuinely loved others like I do now. I’m living to serve others. I’m living to encourage and inspire others. I’ve stopped trying so hard, I’ve stopped comparing myself and worrying about what other people think.
There are no limitations to what you can do. Let me be the first example that you don’t have to do the “norm.” In fact, you shouldn’t! If you for one second think you’re not different or you don’t have the ability to create or be better, you do.
We all possess the ability to change. Despite what anyone else thinks.
It’s human nature to change. It’s important to learn and grow every single day and with that you find tremendous breakthroughs on your deepest struggles.
the most uncomfortable situations have turned out to be the best and happiest of my life
all my love,